Wedding Vendor Etiquette

When researching sites and vendors for your wedding, there are some basic etiquette policies you should follow. First, do your homework in advance. Don’t waste your time or the vendors’ time by asking to see a location or asking to meet a vendor, if it’s not in your budget! Ask for a wedding packet, and read it before calling to ask questions or scheduling an appointment. Depending on your location, you may or may not have to hire an outside caterer, so don’t schedule catering tastings until you have a date and location confirmed. Most caterers offer one complimentary tasting, so don’t take advantage of this courtesy by meeting with caterers who are outside of your budget or don’t offer the style of cuisine you are looking for. Lastly and most importantly, always follow-up with ALL the vendors you have communicated with and/or met with, and let them know of your decision, even if you choose another site or vendor. It’s the courteous thing to do and shows respect for the time and expense they expended in working with you.

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Music to Your Ears – Ceremony Music

Choosing the style and types of instruments for your ceremony can make a huge difference based on the ceremony venue. If you are getting married at a church, many have written rules as to what songs can be played, so review the policies carefully. If you are having a ceremony outdoors, be sure to take into consideration the numbers of guests, wind, and other factors that may make it difficult to hear the musicians. Ask for a list of songs in their repertoire and a website where you can listen prior to contracting. Check the contract for any special requirements, such as shade, armless chairs, etc. If you have a special song you’d like them to play, most groups will learn one song at no charge. Then on your wedding day, let the music float you down the aisle!

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Reception Music – DJ or Band?

Your reception music is an important part of the overall success of your wedding, so opting for a DJ or band is a difficult choice for many couples. First, a DJ will usually be less expensive, has a larger selection of songs, and can easily take requests. On the other hand, a band gives a lot of energy to the event and entertains the guests with their interaction. Either way, be sure to ask for referrals, a list of songs in the repertoire, and review contracts prior to hiring them. Your reception music can make or break your wedding event. Choose wisely!

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Thank You Notes

The most important thing to know about writing thank you notes is to hand-write them! No computer-generated “thank you’s!”  Your note should be personalized, writing a few words about the gift received. If you have a large wedding, hand-writing a hundred cards for the reception gifts, let alone any shower gifts, may seem like a daunting task. To help, I recommend writing thank you notes as soon as you receive the gift, even if it’s before the wedding. Find your invitation list and record the gift next to the guest’s name, checking off the name once your note has been sent. Take 3-5 to work with you each day, and write them during your lunch break. Have your fiancé or new husband chip in and write the notes to his family members and friends. It’s not too much to ask….it was his wedding, too!

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Hiring a Wedding Coordinator/Planner Makes Sense, Gives Peace of Mind

Who do you want to plan your wedding–somebody who has never done it before or an experienced professional with many successful weddings on record?

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“30-something” Couples, Second Time Around and Renewal of Vows

Love may indeed be lovelier the second time around, as the song says. Many second marriage couples and mature couples renewing their vows would agree. But what is the best way to properly capture the spirit of these celebrations?

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Elopements/Intimate Weddings — Romance, Spontaneity and individuality

Gone are the days when a young man propped a ladder up to his beloved’s window and burst forth in a poetic soliloquy before whisking her off to elope. However, even today there’s something to be said for the romance, secrecy and spontaneity of elopement. Elopement remains popular for older and second marriage couples for a variety of reasons. With the rising cost of weddings, elopement is also gaining in popularity among younger people.

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Destination Weddings Make Beautiful Memories

A vineyard in summer, a beach at sunset, a glen in the midst of towering trees or an exciting cosmopolitan city—all are great destination choices for a wedding. Many couples choose locations with romantic associations, such as where they grew up or became engaged. Others choose wedding destinations for the fun or scenic backdrop they offer. Favored wedding destinations in the U.S. include the Sonoma-Napa Wine Country, and Hawaii. Las Vegas tops the list as the most chosen destination wedding site. From elopements to grandiose affairs of 200 guests, destination weddings have tripled in popularity in the last three years.

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Modern Wedding Etiquette

What we once considered to be proper wedding behavior was actually held over from the Elizabethan and Renaissance eras. Many traditions have gone out of style in the past thirty years. The following variations on wedding civilities are better suited to today’s lifestyle and varied personal circumstances.

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Turn-Of-”This”-Century Wedding Trends

Around the start of this millennium, there began a trend toward simpler weddings with increased focus on family and friendship. And, after investing so much time, energy, and money in their nuptial celebrations, why shouldn’t couples want more time to savor the occasion with family and friends?

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